I'm sure all of you have heard quite a bit on marriage, from "we speak different languages" to "the sex isn't great/not frequent enough..." or whatever.
I'm here to tell you the truth.
Marriage brings the best, the most abundant, the most long-lasting happiness.
Not just when things are going good. I mean, IF you find the right person, and YOU are the right person, marriage makes you happy EVEN when you've lost your job, or are so exhausted you just cry, or if you lose a family member.
It's not to say you never get stressed, or sad, or angry. It's that marriage, as long as both of you are mature, is enough. It is a solid foundation you can build up on. It is a stability you can't find anywhere else--I don't care what you say, boyfriends aren't stable, school isn't. Marriage is. Especially in the temple.
You HAVE to be ready!!!!!! The ones who are successful and happy knew the responsibilty(emotional, fiscal, mental, physical) and accepted it maturely. Before you even TALK about it, think. Long and hard. Take walks alone. Open up to yourself. Don't be degrading, but be honest with yourself--am I READY? Of course, sorry to be crude, but everyone is ready for the "sex" part--we have been since we were 13--but are you ready for more than a "hormonal" revelation?
Find someone you can have an intelligent conversation with (you can have any conversation with anyone, but intelligent?), find someone who fits your lifestyle (outdoors, indoors, affectionate, goal-oriented, traveler), find someone who has a future, and is living it now. If you're dating a 26 year old who says "Someday I'm going to get out of debt, and save money", you know right there he's never going to do it. RUN.
I'm here to tell you the truth.
Marriage brings the best, the most abundant, the most long-lasting happiness.
Not just when things are going good. I mean, IF you find the right person, and YOU are the right person, marriage makes you happy EVEN when you've lost your job, or are so exhausted you just cry, or if you lose a family member.
It's not to say you never get stressed, or sad, or angry. It's that marriage, as long as both of you are mature, is enough. It is a solid foundation you can build up on. It is a stability you can't find anywhere else--I don't care what you say, boyfriends aren't stable, school isn't. Marriage is. Especially in the temple.
You HAVE to be ready!!!!!! The ones who are successful and happy knew the responsibilty(emotional, fiscal, mental, physical) and accepted it maturely. Before you even TALK about it, think. Long and hard. Take walks alone. Open up to yourself. Don't be degrading, but be honest with yourself--am I READY? Of course, sorry to be crude, but everyone is ready for the "sex" part--we have been since we were 13--but are you ready for more than a "hormonal" revelation?
Find someone you can have an intelligent conversation with (you can have any conversation with anyone, but intelligent?), find someone who fits your lifestyle (outdoors, indoors, affectionate, goal-oriented, traveler), find someone who has a future, and is living it now. If you're dating a 26 year old who says "Someday I'm going to get out of debt, and save money", you know right there he's never going to do it. RUN.
Find someone who is responsible in all aspects; do they have a job? Do they have a whole bunch of credit cards? Do they chose to be around their family and are they helpful? What are they like when they're angry? I know some of it is common sense, but sometimes there are stars in your eyes. Shake them out and see his habits clearly.
Instead of looking at the sum of all physical parts, realize that these are children of God, God embryos. They deserve more than a glance, judge them for who they are, good and bad. That goes for attractive and unattractive alike. Everyone deserves a chance, just like you believe you do.
Marriage is everything you think it is and more. Marriage is hope, life, pure and true love, and I stand for it. Co-habitation, homosexual marriage, and one night stands will NEVER, I repeat, NEVER make the emptiness go away.
Marriage is eternal life, love and happiness.
Instead of looking at the sum of all physical parts, realize that these are children of God, God embryos. They deserve more than a glance, judge them for who they are, good and bad. That goes for attractive and unattractive alike. Everyone deserves a chance, just like you believe you do.
Marriage is everything you think it is and more. Marriage is hope, life, pure and true love, and I stand for it. Co-habitation, homosexual marriage, and one night stands will NEVER, I repeat, NEVER make the emptiness go away.
Marriage is eternal life, love and happiness.
